Turning our Tragedy into a National Dialogue to Combat "The Choking Game"




 Pass-out games, most commonly known as “The Choking Game,”  have been around for centuries.  Unlike auto-erotic asphyxiation  (AeA), teens and tweens have been experimenting with this for non-sexual reasons (e.g., curiosity, peer pressure, the mistaken belief  that it is safer than drugs) because they are unaware of the  dangers.

 This generations-old issue has seen a recent resurgence as a result  of You Tube, making the internet a cyber-playground.  Kids learn  this deadly activity from other kids all across the world and  believe  from other kids that it is harmless. They lack effective education to  combat what they hear on the web, putting them all at risk.

The Choking Game differs from other risky activities is that it:

  • is not illegal and has no deterrent of legal consequence;
  • does not require acquisition of a product;
  • can be “played” alone; and
  • interrupts basic brain function, therefore it is impossible to know when brain damage or death will occur.

It is an equal-opportunity danger – it knows no racial, cultural, religious or socio-economic boundaries.

While studies estimate 6 – 16% of teens have participated in pass-out games, anecdotal reports indicate the numbers to be much higher.  Increasing articles cite The Choking Game as one of the top dangerous behaviors that need to be on parents’ radar.

Statistically it has been considered an aberration because the numbers of deaths and injuries attributed to ‘The Choking Game’ appear small, hence unimportant.  But statistics do not tell the story.  There is no death code for The Choking Game, nor is there an injury code for Choking Game injuries.  In addition to a lack of codes to correctly gather statistics, there is no standardized way for law enforcement and medical examiners to determine cause of death.  As a result, most Choking Game deaths are misclassified as suicides.  And choking game-related injuries are rarely reported with the correct attribution.  Even when a correct determination is made, many families bear their grief in silence because of shock and shame, “How could my child have done something so stupid?  What was s/he thinking?”

Erik Robinson is one such victim of the Choking Game ...

My son Erik died April 21, 2010 from the Choking Game.  He was a normal, healthy 6th grader at Lincoln Middle School in Santa Monica, California - an "A" student, avid athlete and boy scout. His dream was to go to West Point, enter the military and then law enforcement. He was the opposite of a youth "at risk".  Credible evidence indicates that Erik's first exposure to the choking game was during school the day before he tried it at home and died.

At first we said that Erik died from a tragic accident until one schoolmate came forward and corroborated what the police maintained.  A reporter wanted to write a story that Erik was cyber-bullied into suicide which was totally false.  I was so incensed that I decided to go public with the truth.

Thus began the journey called Erik’s Cause ...

With the valuable input of many professionals, we have created an exceptional skill-based training program that addresses the dangers of ‘The Choking Game’ in a way that does not make kids curious to try it and also builds character skills to help kids say “no” to risk-taking behavior in general.  The training is standardized and can be easily replicated.  We provide education for parents as well as kids which also helps open a door of opportunity for parents to talk with their children about other sensitive topics in addition to the Choking Game.

Decades ago, talk of substance abuse prevention in schools was unthinkable.  Recently bullying was a taboo subject until it gained national attention.  We believe the time has come to bring The Choking Game out of the shadows and into public awareness so our children can be saved from this epidemic and families can be spared the grief of losing a child to this preventable activity.

Erik's dream was to be a soldier - he wanted to save lives.  My mission is to honor his legacy by saving the lives of other kids and sparing families from this type of blindsiding loss. Please share your story with us, tell a friend, share with others, join our cause and save kids' lives.

Thank you, Judy Rogg (Erik's mom)

These are just a few of the many victims of the choking game:






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commented 2015-03-02 07:47:25 -0800 · Flag
commented 2015-02-18 18:57:23 -0800 · Flag
We just lost our 12 year old, and it was immediately obvious that he was trying the choking game. We had talked to him about it, months ago, when it was in the news. We didn’t know it was on his radar and we certainly didn’t think he’d try it. His father, grandmother and little brother were right in the next room. We think he probably thought he’d try this to find out what the fuss was about and then go have his after school snack and some TV before homework, and maybe, we don’t really know, but maybe, in his mind, he might have thought this might give him a little prestige amongst his peers. He was only 12 and very happy. He had been diagnosed with Aspergers when he was younger, but had asked us not to keep talking about it, because, he said, he was over it. We haven’t thought for even a minute that this was suicide. My husband, Simon’s dad fround him and immediately recognized it as the choking game. His knees were near the floor and he was just leaning forward. This was just a kid who tried to do something incredibly stupid. We will never forget Simon, nor will we stop talking about him. We view his death as a horrible, stupid accident. Even though we had casually discussed this with him months ago, it didn’t sink in. It isn’t enough to tell parents about this or kids. You have to scare the crap out of your kids about this!
commented 2014-11-12 20:04:48 -0800 · Flag
Hello Judy. Sue McNamara Barber here. I turned on my computer tonight and saw your beautiful face on my ISP home page. I am truly sorry to hear about your losing Erik in such a tragic way. He looks like he was a wonderful boy. I am so proud of you for the actions you have taken over these past five years to help other families to avoid this loss in the wake of your loss. Love you, Sue
commented 2014-11-12 18:51:13 -0800 · Flag
I’m in tears from this video! I have a 12 year old son and I am going to close my computer and go talk to him about this right now! Your loss is not in vain, I will do my part to spread the word! Thank you for sharing with other parents and kids to prevent the loss of more! Bless you!!
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This is an important cause!!
commented 2014-11-12 13:16:33 -0800 · Flag
I remember playing this game as a kid at slumber parties. I had no idea it was so dangerous. I just had a great conversations with my two sons about it. Thank you.
commented 2014-11-12 13:11:53 -0800 · Flag
I lost my son to this a year ago. I miss him every day.
commented 2014-10-22 13:25:51 -0700 · Flag
Hi, I’m from Brazil .. lots of good information ! Sorry for ur lost. thank you for what you’ve been doing .
followed this page 2014-01-23 07:48:33 -0800
commented 2014-01-12 05:18:24 -0800 · Flag
Thanks for this valuable information, Judy. It is much appreciated.
commented 2013-11-06 18:48:15 -0800 · Flag
TY :)
commented 2013-10-03 06:34:38 -0700 · Flag
Judy this is a great website, lots of great information, thank you for all you do
commented 2013-07-11 17:28:51 -0700 · Flag
Your site looks great… lots of information. A great page honouring your son Judy. Praying many lives will be touched and saved through this site.
Erik's Cause
Saving lives with a non-graphic, skills-based approach to raise awareness and stop deadly pass-out games (most commonly known as "The Choking Game").